“Behind any remarkable achievement, there are always certain reasons and conditions that made it possible.” ~The Unhappiness Syndrome
The Unhappiness Syndrome by Ryuho Okawa: 2.5/5 Stars
WHAT IF we have fallen in love with unhappiness? Although we all wish to be happy, many of us fall into a set pattern of failures when we find ourselves in certain circumstances. On the conscious level, we think we are earnestly seeking happiness, but unconsciously, we may be choosing the patterns of thinking and action that will eventually lead us to unhappiness. According to the author, Ryuho okawa, surprisingly 80 to 90 percent of the people have had symptoms of the “Unhappiness Syndrome” which are patterns of thinking that invite unhappiness. In this book, Okawa diagnoses the 28 common habits of the Unhappiness Syndrome and offers prescriptions for changing them so that we can cure ourselves of this syndrome. The path to happiness begins with becoming aware of the negative patterns that we fall into. Find out whether you fall into any of the 28 patterns so that you can free yourself from worries, distress, and emotional pain. With the prescriptions offered in this book, you can start to think and act in a way that attracts happiness and open a path to a positive, bright, and happy future!
This is a spoiler free review considering it’s kinda hard to spoil a nonfiction book haha.
I received an e-copy of this book from NetGalley and I’m very thankful. After seeing a review over on Kris’ blog, Boston Book Reader, after reading her review I was interested in giving this book a try. Sadly I was disappointed much in the way she was. Let’s get into shall we?
I loved this book in the beginning because I could relate to some of the “symptoms” however literally halfway through this book I stopped being able to connect with what she was saying. She moved more toward religion, marriage, and work. I am religious, but I didn’t agree with the things she was saying and I didn’t agree completely on her religious beliefs either. Due to not being able to relate anymore I didn’t want to eve finish this book, but I did anyway. I’m not saying others wouldn’t find it helpful, but it wasn’t helpful for me.
Let’s talk about the parts I did find helpful though since I did relate more with the beginning of this book.
The negative thinker’s mind has fallen into a patter of pessimism that leads to unhappiness. This means that when he hears a remark about himself, even if no malice was intended, it can set ff a negative reaction of hurt.
The beginning of this novel was very much on negative thinking and ways to help fix it. I’m a pessimist a lot and so this book wasn’t too bad when it came to things to fix mindsets such as that. Some of what I don’t agree with though was the “just change your thinking” solution of fixing an unhappy mindset. I know that it works and it works for a lot of people, but I don’t like how it’s stated as if it’s very simple and easy to do. Sometimes it can be but it’s not all the time and I don’t think that’s emphasized enough in this book.
This book definitely has some great tips in the beginning. One thing I really like was when the author talked about envy and how to help fix it. Everyone has a little bit of an envious side to them and she suggests that instead of being envious that you look at these people you envy as role models and you learn from them. That way you can better yourself and reach higher goals rather than staying in the same place and being mad you’re not them.
This book does a good way of explaining that changing isn’t instant and that it may take time and hard work, but it’s very achievable. She doesn’t talk down to you in a way that would make you feel like it’s your fault, she let’s you know that it’s more common than you may think.
Overall I gave this book 2.5 stars because I only related to half the book. It was a good half, but the second half didn’t really have meaning to me or my life. However, I believe anyone could find some help with this book and that anyone can relate to at least one symptom in this book. If you think it might help I definitely suggest it, but I would only read the sections you think might help not the whole book unless you relate to everything it says.
I hope y’all enjoyed my review! It’s not too long, but it’s a review nonetheless. Have a great day everyone!