I am thankful for the experiences I’ve gone through.
I was gonna say I’m thankful for pain, but I’m not really thankful for it. I’m thankful for how it’s molded me and shaped me as a person though.
It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel sometimes. I know it can be hard to remain positive when it feels like things just keep getting worse and piling up on you. However, once we finally get through it and see how much stronger we have grown…well it is a pretty amazing thing.
I’ve definitely dealt with things I wish I didn’t but ultimately it’s how you take what you go through and learn/grow from it. It can be hard during it or even a little bit after it, but once you are able to take your pain and not let it get to you anymore. That’s just crazy strong. You get stronger through each experience whether you realize it or not. Without hard times you wouldn’t grow and it would be a lot harder to connect to others who have been through similar experiences. You can help those who’ve been through similar things or are going through similar things. Sometimes just knowing you’re not the only one is a comforting thing.
You come across people that you think care and then come to find out they leave you feeling hurt. However, you take that and you grow. You learn what to tolerate and you learn what type of people to avoid. You can also learn a great deal about yourself as well. It’s very important to have some alone time and learn to love not only yourself but the alone time with yourself. It’s not always an easy process and it can leave you confused but you just have to dig a little deeper sometimes. However, there are times when you’ll never get an explanation and you also need to learn how to be okay with that as well.
There can also be times when you hit an all-time low. Sometimes you may know why and other times you might not have a clue, but it happens. When you’re going through it it can be easy to let all the negative thoughts get to you and make it hard to see a way out, but once things start to get better or you start to view things in a more positive light or you get help; you just grew stronger. You’re able to share your experiences with anyone who needs it. Whether that be you kids, a coworker, a friend, or a complete stranger! You’re able to help someone out of their funk, help them realize help is okay, help them before they hit that rock bottom, etc.
Pain sucks and no one wants it, but when you make something beautiful out of that pain that’s when you grow. When you’re able to change your attitude and outlook on life because of your experiences that’s when you are able to take more control over your life. That’s how you’re able to have more good days compared to bad.
I know bad days are unavoidable but when you can take charge of your feelings and your reaction to those bad days you’ll find your bad days don’t bother you so much. I also know that sometimes you can try your best and still not be able to have that nice reaction to a crappy day and that’s okay too. As long as you learn how to take care of yourself while you’re having a bad day. As long as you learn how to shorten those bad days and grow as a person.
Make sure you don’t search for sympathy and play victim all the time. You just gotta take the bad days for what they are and GROW. I know I’ve said that a lot, but it’s an important thing to remember. Most people take their bad days and say, “no it’s okay I’m having a bad day and I’m allowed this bad day.” Well, that bad “day” has been a week now. When are you gonna get out of it? “I have no control I just have to ride it out.” That may be true but are you taking the steps to even get out of this place you’re in?
Catch my drift? I know people suffer from depression and would like to argue the fact that it’s a chemical imbalance and they really don’t have control. You have more control than you think though. Are you getting the help you need? If not then you’re letting it control you and you’re not taking those steps. Are you doing basic self-care acts such as showering even when you don’t want to get out of bed? I could go on but I don’t need to because y’all get the gist I’m sure.
I’ve been through some things I wish I never had to. I wish some of the pain I caused myself I could take back. However, I can’t change the past. I can’t go back and undo my mistakes. So, the next step is to learn from them and not repeat them. I am thankful for where I’m at in my life. Life will never be perfect but I’ve improved so much this past year and it’s thanks to the pain I’ve had to go through, but it’s also thanks to the beautiful things I’ve been through as well.
I hope y’all liked this post even though it’s kind of a jumbled mess haha. Have a wonderful and blessed day y’all! ❤